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10 Ways You Can Cultivate Success Into Your Life

Want to be successful? Here is my list of 10 Ways you can Cultivate Success in your life.

Then follow these few, simple rules. If you already do some of these – great! You’re on your way to a life filled with success. Kudos to you, and just keep grinding and making the right decisions and you’ll end up at that special place you’ve always wanted to go.

Here, you’ll find, below, my list of 10 Ways to Cultivate Success.

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Don’t give up.

Never give up. Keep your spirit on a shelf high above anything that could ever cause it harm. Never compromise your own goal for anything else. Set it on a plaque, raise a flag, pledge allegiance to your goal and never, ever give it up.

tiger roaring on white snow

Keep your head down and work.

Put your nose to the grindstone. Conveniently, this replaces any drama in your life with firm, honest work. Bond with your work. Make friendships with those who share your dedication. Unless there is something really important going on, keep your head down and work. It’ll be worth it.

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Read.

Just read. Reading makes you think in a different way than you did when you were not reading. The reason? It contextualizes so many of the subjects that are whirling around in your brain. Not only that, it puts things into a new perspective for you so you can better idealize what you want to take from it. The long and the short of it: it makes you smarter.

young man holding a book ("The Power of your subconscious mind") and looking to the sky determinedly

Spend money on yourself. (save/invest)

When was the last time you spent money on yourself? On a coffee at lunch? I wouldn’t say that’s really spending on yourself. I’d say that’s more along the lines of upkeep (like your bills). Take money out of your bank everyday and put it in another account. Just move your money around. It’s your money, so you might as well get comfortable with it. Throw $26 dollars in your savings account every day and wait until you have $1000 dollars. It won’t take long, and after that, you’ll have an idea of where your money goes when you’re not paying attention.

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Run. (Yourself, a business, a team, ANYTHING – just run.) [Think logically]

When you run, what you are actually doing is operating at a capacity that is greater than just simply existing. This automatically means that you are able to manifest a level of performance exclusive to your own effort. Get used to this, because you get better by noticing all of the improvements you need to make.

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Admire success.

In order to grit your teeth long enough to acquire success, you have to have a true admiration for it. People’s ideas of success differ, but the one thing you need to remember is to put in the work you admire. Not only does this relate you to your role models, it gives you something different to try and centralize into your work. It means you’re always striving for something better.

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Sleep.

Get enough sleep. If you need to catch up on some (or a lot of) z’s, take five days and totally mash up your schedule. At the end of it your body will be like a bumblebee from all the energy. Redirect that energy out into your waking life and organize your day into a legacy.

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Encourage others. (even if it means encouraging yourself)

One of the most important things we can do on this planet is to encourage others. A small gesture of acknowledgement goes a long way in this world, and you’d be surprised to see what difference a little pat on the back can make. Having a positive attitude will help you get through trying times, so why not lift others up in the process?

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Smile. You’ll be needing it.

That’s right – so say cheese! Try to appear in as many good photos as you can. You’ll be glad you had so many shared good memories.

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Have fun. You need it for where you’re headed.

Success isn’t for everyone. It’s hard, and to combat this you need to have some fun. It’ll be your way of recharging your batteries so you can keep producing stellar results. Stay the course and while you’re at it, have a bit of fun.


Thanks for reading my list of 10 Ways you can Cultivate Success into your life!

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What did you learn?

  • 1. Don’t give up. The end will show you results.
  • 2. Keep your head down and work; stay dedicated and don’t falter.
  • 3. Read. Keep reading 🙂
  • 4. Spend money on yourself. (save/invest) Practice if you have to, but start putting your money in some place useful.
  • 5. Run. Move your body. Unite your brain with your motor senses, it has great benefits.
  • 6. Admire success. Keep your head up and tuned into what your successful leaders are doing.
  • 7. Sleep. Your foundation for everything.
  • 8. Encourage others. You need to break out of the mold of not saying anything. Get people moving!
  • 9. Smile. Everybody appreciates a smile.
  • 10. Have fun. You need it for where you’re headed. So, stay grounded, and stay groovy.
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My Journey Through 5 Steps of Change

Have you ever wondered just what real change looks like? Below you can check out the phases/stages I went through.

Step 1 – I Realized the Need for Change

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Once I realized that I needed to change, I began taking small actions. I made sure they were noticeable – getting rid of a chair made me able to see the other side of my room. In this way I primed myself for a big change that I was going to make. Think of it like a farmer’s field; if you don’t put in the work, you don’t get a crop at the end of the year. Like a garden, you must water it everyday if you expect to get a delicious juicy tomato.

Another thing I did was eliminate distractions. Bye, bye, Facebook. For many, this is where the journey for change ends. If you really want to succeed in the future, you have to sacrifice the present. The alternative is something all too familiar, like a cousin who’s been couch surfing way too long – and his name is Mediocrity.

Step 2 – I Built the Courage to Change

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Photo creds: Sven Huls on Pexels

The first rule of change – don’t be afraid of it. Let me explain.

If you were to open up a business, how would you go about doing that? You’d probably take all the necessary steps up until you hit a roadblock. What’s the roadblock? Ding ding ding! That’s right! It’s change!

I’m telling you how we may sacrifice the greater good due to fear.

Be courageous by knowing fear. Then conquer it. You are the master of your life, after all.

The personal relation to my life is my anxiety of large gatherings. Parties, fairs, jobs. After a long depression, I realized I always had this fear, however I was much more energetically capable to pull off a confrontation when I was younger. Requiring a steady job has forced me to confront my fears daily – no more backing out, I had to build the courage. Life hit me in the face like a mass-extinction comet. Since the old way of living wasn’t going to work anymore, I had to buckle up and embrace the onslaught of changes head-on.

Step 3 – I Implemented Change

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Photo by Luis Quintero from Pexels

Change is scary, AND you don’t have to be afraid of it.

I always wanted to laugh really hard at something somebody did or said. My deeply-engrained prejudices always held me back. It’s like there’s a boundary between; first, what they did, second; some set of old, complex, and useless thoughts, and finally; a skewed representation of how I really felt about the event. That has been my life up until now. It sucks, and it’s time to change.

Life is too short not to laugh, slap a knee, and appreciate other people.

Every day I tried rewiring my old programming, moving into rather than away from change. Very slowly I began to get used to things that were not apart of my life before, but that I needed, like close physical connection.

Step 4 – Getting Used to Change

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Once I realized that change is an important and integral part of growth, I got used to it. I just said, “okay sure, change me up.” Change is everywhere in life. I’m sure you can look back and see all the major moments in your life that were the results of change.

I’ve also had times where I recognized that change comes and goes. It’s exciting, really.

Take a look at this picture I took of an open door. It was like it was calling me.

That’s my room. And I live in a very erratic household. My big change is going to be to leave.

Step 5 – Maintaining Change

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Photo creds: Pixabay

Maintaining is the fun part because it is like a challenge. It’s like a way of forging your character.

The key to maintaining your new life is to find things that you enjoy. It sounds cheesy and it’s true. For me, it’s writing and researching or simply looking up what a word means and then keeping that in mind for a while. I also found out that I need to stimulate my brain intellectually because of my love for education, so I listen to the classic writers or read more contemporary non-fiction. To maintain change, you must never leave behind your joys.

There are ups and downs in life. When you’re down low, try to remember the power that change has and use it as a tool. Sometimes the cost of change is great, and other times it doesn’t cost much. The fact that change is a part of life is a testament to embrace it more fully.

Note for struggling individuals: If you are experiencing toxicity in your life, I can’t express enough the fact that you change your situation. If you can’t determine if you’re in a toxic relationship or not, I’m going to tell you from experience that if you think you are – you are. Don’t make the mistake I did and spend years trying to be the backbone of something that is trying to break you down.


Conclusion

No matter where you are, you always have the ability to give. To be honest, that’s how I was able to change. I kept giving my best to people and eventually, all the good parts they saw in me were reflected back to me. I had a very poor self-image. That’s why it’s crucial to make connections outside of your comfort zone. On the same hand it did take around 6 months to start seeing results. So stick with it for a while. You can do it. It really is worth the effort.


Final Words

Thank you for reading! I want to be able to open up to my audience, because I want my audience to open up to me. Therefore if you are having any questions, concerns, doubts or fears do not hesitate to reach out to me. I made that mistake going through hardships. My email is on my Contact page.

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Intro

Hi, and welcome to my site. After many months of thinking, I finally made the decision to start a blog. The goal here is to document my journey with an avoidant personality disorder. I’m determined to find out if this thing can be conquered, and I’m going to upload everything I can to help scientists develop a greater understanding of such an apparently rare condition. It would be my honour to pose as a testament for a functioning afflicted individual. That being said, it is going to be a very challenging endeavour for me to be brutally honest about my day-to-day experiences and thoughts, but one adage rings true: the truth will set you free. For twenty-three years I’ve been challenged by the unexplainable. It seems only logical to adopt this as a gift, then, a “thorn in my side,” to make me more resilient.

Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then I am strong.

2 Corinthians 12:10

In life there are many pains, while some of them are too great to bear. I always say: the tree that knew not of the wind knew not of his roots.

Beginning today I will post updates on my journey through life. It won’t be easy. It will be extremely difficult for me. I will heave and ho, I’ll even scream and shout. My soul will cower in fear. My heart will race like a hummingbird. My strength will some day rise, like the noonday sun.

To give you a rundown of what having a personality disorder is like, it looks like this: most people have an edge, I have a doorway. There is no boundary to me. Nothing sets me apart. I absorb a person’s depression, joy, anger, psychosis, hate, and love. I am …

Trust me, no one else on this earth is more disappointed in themselves than I am. I am a fury, the judge of my actions. My mind is apart from my soul, my body is caught in warfare. How could I not be fury manifest?

Well, there is hope. What is it for me? Come see for yourself.

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