Every now and then, you may stumble upon something that is so intriguing to you that it strikes significant meaning in you. Often times it is something that is very different (an outsider) from your life. It may be due to a difference in culture, proving why it’s so important. The more cultured you are, the greater your potential for happiness. I invite you to become more intrigued by things that are different than you.
You hate the word because you know it so well. But you are a procrastinator who never gets around to doing the things he actually wants to do. And you feel so guilty and kick yourself for being such a bad human, even though you know that’s not the case: you’re just lazy.
Procrastinating is a thing that gets almost every person. A lot of the successful people you see are tremendous goal-setters. And the most piercing fact is this: some of them only accomplish three tasks a day.
“What? Three goals a day? I can’t even accomplish one … well, I don’t really have any … .”
And that’s you, thinking to yourself how you should implement these tip and tricks into your life, while you still hate yourself for being so droll!
Why do I know this? Well, I’ve been there myself. And here’s my way out.
Want to be successful? Here is my list of 10 Ways you can Cultivate Success in your life.
Then follow these few, simple rules. If you already do some of these – great! You’re on your way to a life filled with success. Kudos to you, and just keep grinding and making the right decisions and you’ll end up at that special place you’ve always wanted to go.
Here, you’ll find, below, my list of 10 Ways to Cultivate Success.
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Don’t give up.
Never give up. Keep your spirit on a shelf high above anything that could ever cause it harm. Never compromise your own goal for anything else. Set it on a plaque, raise a flag, pledge allegiance to your goal and never, ever give it up.
Keep your head down and work.
Put your nose to the grindstone. Conveniently, this replaces any drama in your life with firm, honest work. Bond with your work. Make friendships with those who share your dedication. Unless there is something really important going on, keep your head down and work. It’ll be worth it.
Just read. Reading makes you think in a different way than you did when you were not reading. The reason? It contextualizes so many of the subjects that are whirling around in your brain. Not only that, it puts things into a new perspective for you so you can better idealize what you want to take from it. The long and the short of it: it makes you smarter.
Spend money on yourself. (save/invest)
When was the last time you spent money on yourself? On a coffee at lunch? I wouldn’t say that’s really spending on yourself. I’d say that’s more along the lines of upkeep (like your bills). Take money out of your bank everyday and put it in another account. Just move your money around. It’s your money, so you might as well get comfortable with it. Throw $26 dollars in your savings account every day and wait until you have $1000 dollars. It won’t take long, and after that, you’ll have an idea of where your money goes when you’re not paying attention.
Run. (Yourself, a business, a team, ANYTHING – just run.) [Think logically]
When you run, what you are actually doing is operating at a capacity that is greater than just simply existing. This automatically means that you are able to manifest a level of performance exclusive to your own effort. Get used to this, because you get better by noticing all of the improvements you need to make.
In order to grit your teeth long enough to acquire success, you have to have a true admiration for it. People’s ideas of success differ, but the one thing you need to remember is to put in the work you admire. Not only does this relate you to your role models, it gives you something different to try and centralize into your work. It means you’re always striving for something better.
Get enough sleep. If you need to catch up on some (or a lot of) z’s, take five days and totally mash up your schedule. At the end of it your body will be like a bumblebee from all the energy. Redirect that energy out into your waking life and organize your day into a legacy.
Encourage others. (even if it means encouraging yourself)
One of the most important things we can do on this planet is to encourage others. A small gesture of acknowledgement goes a long way in this world, and you’d be surprised to see what difference a little pat on the back can make. Having a positive attitude will help you get through trying times, so why not lift others up in the process?
Smile. You’ll be needing it.
That’s right – so say cheese! Try to appear in as many good photos as you can. You’ll be glad you had so many shared good memories.
Have fun. You need it for where you’re headed.
Success isn’t for everyone. It’s hard, and to combat this you need to have some fun. It’ll be your way of recharging your batteries so you can keep producing stellar results. Stay the course and while you’re at it, have a bit of fun.
Thanks for reading my list of 10 Ways you can Cultivate Success into your life!
What did you learn?
- 1. Don’t give up. The end will show you results.
- 2. Keep your head down and work; stay dedicated and don’t falter.
- 3. Read. Keep reading 🙂
- 4. Spend money on yourself. (save/invest) Practice if you have to, but start putting your money in some place useful.
- 5. Run. Move your body. Unite your brain with your motor senses, it has great benefits.
- 6. Admire success. Keep your head up and tuned into what your successful leaders are doing.
- 7. Sleep. Your foundation for everything.
- 8. Encourage others. You need to break out of the mold of not saying anything. Get people moving!
- 9. Smile. Everybody appreciates a smile.
- 10. Have fun. You need it for where you’re headed. So, stay grounded, and stay groovy.
I’m in a place
With a man or woman standing above me
They look out along the horizon
I’m on a ledge hanging underneath them
They can’t see me
My mouth is parched; I can’t shout
They can’t hear me
I want to let go
I’m so alone that the birds watch me every second
The ground looks so comfortable
But I won’t give up
I would go through episodes voluntarily, as if some reward waited for me at the end.
But all that came was a false reality. I was literally running programs.
And the worst part was that I physically acted out these episodes until they were over, sparing no humility. I humiliated myself because I thought it was right, but my program was wrong, the only reason I kept going down these pathways was because they were the paths of least resistance – it was easy – but the problem was that I always reached a point of depression.
So that’s where following your thoughts gets you. It either gets you in trouble or nowhere at all. The reason is because the vision in our head does not always line up with life’s funny intricacies. We have to constantly be battling what bothers us. If we allow negative things to come into our lives, that is the side we’ll become polarized with. I’ll tell you, following your thoughts down the rabbithole gets you nowhere but depressed and alone. You need a reality to post up with. If all you follow are dreams, you’ll knock down the pillars that hold up reality. Point said.
I used to get so involved with things that bothered me because I was convinced I could make things right. All that did was leave me broken, and the problem was still there! Now, when we try to fix things, we might go to great lengths to ensure it get’s done. Anybody ever detail the inside of a car from start to finish? Well, I’ll tell you I have and my arms were starting to get real shaky at the end. I ran out of sugar – I didn’t nurture myself. What could have been an enjoyable chore turned out to be something I never wanted to do again! So that’s why we should nurture ourselves, so we can keep up with our busy, busy lives and come back the next day!
So, before every thought I had today I asked myself “do I want an episode out of this?” or, “is this an episode?”. Constantly I was on this, all day. But it worked! My entire day went smoothly because I was watching my moods. When I realized that my moods were just reactions to situations, I never made the opportunity for a situation to come up! It’s really that simple!
That’s all I have for you today, folks. I’m leaning toward focusing this blog as a recovery from depression page. I always wanted to see somebody’s real journey from depressed to successed (coined) so I guess I’ll just have to be the one that goes ahead and does it!
As a closer:
You cannot ignore what’s around you. You can’t just “watch an episode” and have it be okay in the end. No, our actions have repercussions.
I saw a really attractive girl today, then I went through the whole checklist of why I’m not going to talk to her.
A coworker brought up a conversation about cars, I think I killed it 40 seconds in.
Nobody knows my name.
I’m not into meddling with people’s lives.
Sometimes I feel lost.
I am very slow.
I want to give up smoking weed because I want to be a good leader.
I feel like I need it to be “me”.
When I started smoking it at 17 I got into it heavy. It feels like my brain needs it to activate a certain part of me now.
I don’t know where I stand. My life is rigidly cut out for me, in underdogdom. I oftentimes feel like destroying many things.
I want to join a boxing club but I need to move out of my parent’s negative vibe household first.
$30 grand in debt and I feel like going bankrupt. Never go on Indeed looking for jobs, kids. I got scammed for $10,000 doing that. But then again I am pretty dumb. I never learn. Too addicted to chaos.
That’s just a credit card and a car. Not even school loans or anything from the government. Don’t buy a car from a dealership.
Woke up and just wanted to shout. Like get up all you lazy-a** m*****f******s. I want to be loud. Too many eggshells.
I felt like I barely did anything at work today. Every day is the same but different … .
How am I supposed to shake somebody’s hand when I don’t know who I am?
Anybody who likes magpies, we’ll get along just fine.
Said hi to one today.
Had breakfast but was soon very, very hungry.
Forgot where I put my lunch so I ended up spending money.
Heard a guy listening to something religious.
Reminded me of my own journey.
Not sure if people recognize me or not.
Life is a piece of cake.
3PM came and I was ready to go home.
Day, me say day, me say day, me say …
Thinking about tomorrow.
No, don’t think of tomorrow!
Just want to get it over with.
Have you ever wondered just what real change looks like? Below you can check out the phases/stages I went through.
Step 1 – I Realized the Need for Change
Once I realized that I needed to change, I began taking small actions. I made sure they were noticeable – getting rid of a chair made me able to see the other side of my room. In this way I primed myself for a big change that I was going to make. Think of it like a farmer’s field; if you don’t put in the work, you don’t get a crop at the end of the year. Like a garden, you must water it everyday if you expect to get a delicious juicy tomato.
Another thing I did was eliminate distractions. Bye, bye, Facebook. For many, this is where the journey for change ends. If you really want to succeed in the future, you have to sacrifice the present. The alternative is something all too familiar, like a cousin who’s been couch surfing way too long – and his name is Mediocrity.
Step 2 – I Built the Courage to Change
The first rule of change – don’t be afraid of it. Let me explain.
If you were to open up a business, how would you go about doing that? You’d probably take all the necessary steps up until you hit a roadblock. What’s the roadblock? Ding ding ding! That’s right! It’s change!
I’m telling you how we may sacrifice the greater good due to fear.
Be courageous by knowing fear. Then conquer it. You are the master of your life, after all.
The personal relation to my life is my anxiety of large gatherings. Parties, fairs, jobs. After a long depression, I realized I always had this fear, however I was much more energetically capable to pull off a confrontation when I was younger. Requiring a steady job has forced me to confront my fears daily – no more backing out, I had to build the courage. Life hit me in the face like a mass-extinction comet. Since the old way of living wasn’t going to work anymore, I had to buckle up and embrace the onslaught of changes head-on.
Step 3 – I Implemented Change
Change is scary, AND you don’t have to be afraid of it.
I always wanted to laugh really hard at something somebody did or said. My deeply-engrained prejudices always held me back. It’s like there’s a boundary between; first, what they did, second; some set of old, complex, and useless thoughts, and finally; a skewed representation of how I really felt about the event. That has been my life up until now. It sucks, and it’s time to change.
Life is too short not to laugh, slap a knee, and appreciate other people.
Every day I tried rewiring my old programming, moving into rather than away from change. Very slowly I began to get used to things that were not apart of my life before, but that I needed, like close physical connection.
Step 4 – Getting Used to Change
Once I realized that change is an important and integral part of growth, I got used to it. I just said, “okay sure, change me up.” Change is everywhere in life. I’m sure you can look back and see all the major moments in your life that were the results of change.
I’ve also had times where I recognized that change comes and goes. It’s exciting, really.
Take a look at this picture I took of an open door. It was like it was calling me.
That’s my room. And I live in a very erratic household. My big change is going to be to leave.
Step 5 – Maintaining Change
Maintaining is the fun part because it is like a challenge. It’s like a way of forging your character.
The key to maintaining your new life is to find things that you enjoy. It sounds cheesy and it’s true. For me, it’s writing and researching or simply looking up what a word means and then keeping that in mind for a while. I also found out that I need to stimulate my brain intellectually because of my love for education, so I listen to the classic writers or read more contemporary non-fiction. To maintain change, you must never leave behind your joys.
There are ups and downs in life. When you’re down low, try to remember the power that change has and use it as a tool. Sometimes the cost of change is great, and other times it doesn’t cost much. The fact that change is a part of life is a testament to embrace it more fully.
Note for struggling individuals: If you are experiencing toxicity in your life, I can’t express enough the fact that you change your situation. If you can’t determine if you’re in a toxic relationship or not, I’m going to tell you from experience that if you think you are – you are. Don’t make the mistake I did and spend years trying to be the backbone of something that is trying to break you down.
No matter where you are, you always have the ability to give. To be honest, that’s how I was able to change. I kept giving my best to people and eventually, all the good parts they saw in me were reflected back to me. I had a very poor self-image. That’s why it’s crucial to make connections outside of your comfort zone. On the same hand it did take around 6 months to start seeing results. So stick with it for a while. You can do it. It really is worth the effort.
Thank you for reading! I want to be able to open up to my audience, because I want my audience to open up to me. Therefore if you are having any questions, concerns, doubts or fears do not hesitate to reach out to me. I made that mistake going through hardships. My email is on my Contact page.